What's closure? And why do so many people need it to be "okay"? People meet up and talk to get closure, or people have existing anxiety because they don't have closure.
So if closure is, "closure or need for closure are psychological terms that describe the desire or need individuals have for information that will allow them to conclude an issue that had previously been clouded in ambiguity and uncertainty", then all these people are searching for an ending to something they feel hasn't ended yet. Breakups, fights, those do not often end in closure, so we feel the need to pursue it in hopes that it'll make us feel better. Does it really though? I have had two serious relationships in my lifetime, the last one I thought would end with a ring on my finger, a house, and two kids playing in the backyard and then in March, all of that went away. Like anything, you go through those periods of wondering if you made a mistake, if you could've stopped it, if you could have done anything, and if there was anything you could've done, you would have done it all. Over time though, those feelings stop. You stop wondering because you don't wonder, you know. You see it on their face every time they don't look at you. You see how much they don't care. At first it hits you like a train, but over time that goes away too. You move on. Its not overnight, its not instant, but you do it. So when someone asks you to meet, and you start thinking why you want to go there in the first place, the first thing you think is "closure" but if closure is about solving uncertainty, then I've already done it. Its over. It was over the moment we said it was over. I don't know how much clearer that can be. It won't be a fairytale get back together moment, it will be a goodbye moment. The kiss on the cheek goodbye when you know that after that day, that person will cease to exist forever.
